Table Talk Thursday: General Resources for Child Abuse

Myrna Alphonse has put together a list of general resources for child abuse. It would a good idea to print these out or at the very least bookmark them for future reference.



General Resources for Child Abuse

National Hotlines
CHILDHELP USA® National Child Abuse HotlineToll-free: 1-800-422-4453 (24 hours)(This is a national hotline that also reaches Canada, Guam, Puerto Rico, and the U.S. Virgin Islands.)

The Child Abuse Hotline dot Com
1-888-649-6905

National Child Abuse Hotline
1-800-4-A-Child

Rape Abuse & Incest National Network
1-800-656-HOPE
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National Agencies

Administration for Children and Families (ACF), U.S. Department of Health and Human ServicesACF promotes the economic and social well-being of families, children, individuals, and communities. Through its Children's Bureau, ACF assists states in the delivery of child welfare services. Its Web site presents related initiatives, statistics, ACF programs, funding, and information systems.
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/

American Humane Association (AHA)AHA works to protect children and animals from cruelty, abuse, and neglect. In addition to holding training conferences, AHA operates the National Resource Center on the Link Between Violence to People and Animals.
http://www.americanhumane.org/
Child Welfare Information Gateway The Gateway offers publications, statistics, and searchable databases for professionals and others interested in child abuse and neglect and child welfare.
http://www.childwelfare.gov/
Child Welfare League of America (CWLA) CWLA serves abused and neglected children and their families. Services include child abuse prevention and treatment, youth programs, residential treatment, child daycare, and family preservation.
http://www.cwla.org/
Childhelp® Childhelp® is dedicated to the treatment and prevention of child abuse. The Web site includes information on nationwide facilities, helpful links, Childhelp programs, the National Child Abuse Hotline (1-800-4-A-CHILD), and child abuse reports.
http://www.childhelp.org/
Children's Defense Fund (CDF) CDF represents America's children, particularly low-income, minority, and disabled children. CDF goals are to educate the Nation regarding the needs of children and to encourage preventive investments in children.
http://www.childrensdefense.org/
Dru Sjodin National Sex Offender Public WebsiteThis online, searchable database of sex offenders is the result of a cooperative effort between the state agencies hosting public sexual offender registries and the Federal Government. The Federal site centralizes the different sex offender registries built and maintained by State and territories and provides real-time access to public sex offender data nationwide with a single Internet search.
This Web site allows parents and concerned citizens to search existing public state and territory sex offender registries beyond their own communities.
http://www.nsopw.gov/Core/Conditions.aspx
Jacob Wetterling Foundation The Foundation works to protect children from sexual exploitation and abduction. The Web site provides information in sections tailored to parents and caregivers, educators and community leaders, kids, and teens.
http://www.jwrc.org/
Kempe Children's Center The Center provides fundraising, education, parental resources, clinical services, research, and advocacy efforts to end child abuse and neglect.
http://www.kempe.org/
LOCATER®, Lost Child Alert Technology Resource LOCATER, a national program from the National Center for Missing & Exploited Children (NCMEC) to distribute advanced computer systems and a cutting-edge web-based program to law enforcement agencies to rapidly distribute images and information about missing-child cases in poster formats.
National Center for Missing and Exploited Children (NCMEC)The Center works to locate and recover missing children and raises public awareness about ways to prevent child abduction, molestation, and sexual exploitation. NCMEC offers a 24-hour, toll-free hotline,1-800-THE-LOST (1-800-843-5678, TDD: 800-826-7653), a CyberTipline to collect leads from the public, and a Web site that details all of their services, including their LOCATER® program for distributing resources to speed the dissemination of posters of missing children.
http://www.locaterposters.org/
National Children's Alliance National Children's Alliance (formerly the National Network of Children's Advocacy Centers) provides training, technical assistance, and networking opportunities to communities seeking to plan, establish, and improve children's advocacy centers.
http://www.nationalchildrensalliance.org/
National Court Appointed Special Advocate Association (NCASAA) NCASAA provides advocacy, public education, and resources for CASA programs across the country. The association also trains CASA volunteers, who work to find safe, permanent homes for abused and neglected children.
http://www.nationalcasa.org/
Prevent Child Abuse America Prevent Child Abuse America promotes prevention strategies as well as providing advocacy, programs, resources, and answers to commonly asked questions about child abuse.
http://www.preventchildabuse.org/index.shtml
Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network (RAINN) RAINN operates a 24-hour telephone hotline (1-800-656-HOPE) and an Online Hotline for victims of sexual assault. The secure web-based hotline provides a safe, secure, and anonymous place for victims to get help online. RAINN also works to promote education and prevention of sexual assault, compiles and shares links to Legal Resources, including the State Mandatory Regulations regarding children and the elderly.
http://www.rainn.org/
Witness Justice Witness Justice provides trauma victims and their loved ones with resources that promote physical, psychological, and spiritual healing. The site features access to experts, message boards, and other print and electronic victim resources.
http://www.witnessjustice.org/

Resources derived from: The Office for Victims of Crime on 8/20/09
http://www.ojp.usdoj.gov/ovc/help/ca.htm


Myrna Alphonse is a career nanny/parent consultant of 19 years transitioning to the counseling field. She specializes in families in crisis by bringing calm to chaos. Myrna resides in Washington, DC.

Table Talk Thursday: A Nanny's Duty to Protect in Cases of Abuse/Neglect

We are proud to have our own Myrna Alphonse as our guest blogger today. She is addressing a difficult topic that every nanny needs to read.

Clarifying Grey Matters: A Nanny’s Duty to Protect in Cases of Abuse/Neglect
Myrna Alphonse, MA, NCC

Imagine this job description: high profile single Dad with three children in need of an exceptional nanny. Hours are as needed with extensive global travel required. In this economic climate, some nannies might find this offer appealing, others might think twice. In the case of Michael Jackson, a nanny named Grace Rwaramba fit the bill. I don’t know anything about her but the few images of her shielding the kids from the media show eyes of strong nurturing support. I can’t help but think of the recent death of Michael Jackson and the impact on his kids. They have suffered dual losses this past year. First their long term nanny and now their primary parent as well.
My first thoughts were what will happen to his children, what are they feeling, and what had they seen in the past? In light of the alleged claims of prescription drug abuse, bizarre behavior, and isolation who was protecting the children? There was one constant figure in their lives: their nanny Grace. What did she do to retain their innocence? As a member of the nanny community, I felt a level of empathy for her situation and a learning opportunity as an outside observer.
Although, I’ve never worked for a high profile family, I could only imagine the torn emotions she must have felt over the years when their primary parent was alleged as unstable to provide adequate care. We can use the fact that Jackson had numerous doctors who routinely administered health care. In the general population, it is not much different than a child who may have a terminally ill parent or one with significant disabilities. Even if round the clock child care is provided for the kids, is this grounds for parental neglect? This leaves a lot of ground for speculation. However, the law is clear for child care providers, including nannies working in homes.

Maybe you wonder: why should I report? Because any child care provider who receives a salary is required by law within three days of the incident. While it is not our job as nannies to dictate “good parenting” choices, it is our responsibility to report cases of abuse or neglect while children under the age of 18 are under our care. There is a fine line between abuse and discipline. Discipline is a learning process to guide a child to more appropriate behaviors. Abuse only stops the intended behavior but it fails to teach healthy alternatives only to avoid punishment. The goal is to assist in raising healthy balanced children with elevated esteem. Even if you are unsure if it is abuse, you can contact your local department of social services or the National Child Abuse Hotline for an anonymous consultation.

RECOGNIZING THE SIGNS OF ABUSE

So, what exactly does abuse look like? There are clear physical cues that make some instances clear depending on severity. However, less visible injuries from emotional/mental maltreatment or sexual abuse are common. It is our duty to report that as well. How can one go about that task when you work for powerful people? There are ways that make it clear from the onset of employment that you are a child advocate. Any breeches of confidentiality are necessary if the children are in harm’s way. It is NOT, I repeat NOT our responsibility to prove abuse, it is only our job to report suspected cases.

The types of abuse are: physical, sexual, and emotional abuse and/or neglect. They can be an isolated incident or occur over a length of time. A nanny is in a prime position to be alert of changes in her charges or in parental attitudes. The ability to recognize the difference between everyday childhood bumps and scrapes from playing with siblings or friends and adult infliction is key.
Physical Abuse
Physical abuse is defined as any act which, regardless of intent, results in a non-accidental injury. This may happen to a frustrated or angry caretaker. The questionable physical indicators are the following:
Bruises & welts
Burns
Fractures
Cuts, scrapes, scratches, lacerations or abrasions
*The child may exhibit extreme behaviors that is not limited to being uncomfortable with physical contact, afraid of adult contact, wears inappropriate clothing to cover injuries, withdrawn or aggressive, or verbally reports being hurt.


Sexual Abuse
Sexual abuse is defined as acts of sexual assault and exploitation of minors. It is important to note that both boys & girls can be victims of sexual abuse. Sexual abuse includes:
Incest
Rape
Fondling
Indecent exposure
Pornography
Prostitution
*The child may exhibit behaviors that are not limited to difficulty walking or sitting, pain or itching in the genital area, engages in highly sexualized play, or may have a sudden noticeable change in their academic performance.
Emotional Abuse
Emotional abuse is defined as acts of verbal assaults and/or neglect that limits a child’s developmental fulfillment. Emotional abuse usually causes a child to live up to the degradation that they are inflicted with. The family in question often has constant conflict. The questionable physical indicators in a child are as follows:
Frequent stomach or head aches
Speech disorders
Failure to thrive medical diagnosis
Lags in physical development
Learning problems

*The child may exhibit behaviors that are not limited to regressive behaviors, neurotic rituals, overly compliant or aggressive, emotional or intellectual delays, self-destructive behavior


REPORTING TO CHILD PROTECTIVE SERVICES
If you have determined that you need to make a report, get support from someone you trust to maintain the boundary of confidentiality. It may even be helpful for you to have someone with you when you make the call. According to the 2008 guide for mandated reporters, they encourage providers to have as much information as possible. This includes:
Name, address, and telephone # of the child and custodial parent(s)
Child’s DOB, gender and race
Name and ages of individuals living with the child
Any special language needs of the family
Specific facts of suspected incident(who, what, when, where, how)
Your name, address, and phone number

Although, it is never easy to actually make the call, your voice can make the difference in a child’s life that may be unable to speak for themselves. If you give your personal information, it will be documented that you fulfilled your obligation as a mandated reporter. In Grace’s case, her vocalized concerns to the extended family caused her termination of employment. Interestingly, she is now back in the Jackson home caring for those children again. You can never go wrong with choosing to do the right thing.

Guidelines are provided by the VA Dept. of Social Services
“A Guide For Mandated Reporters in Recognizing and Reporting Child Abuse and Neglect” 2008

Additonal information can be found here:
http://www.nanny.org/childabuse.php

http://www.childwelfare.gov/systemwide/laws_policies/statutes/mandaall.pdf

Child Abuse Hotline-1-800-552-7096(language line available)
In my next installment, find out how to support a child who is suspected of suffering abuse

Myrna Alphonse is a career nanny/parent consultant of 19 years transitioning to the counseling field. She specializes in families in crisis by bringing calm to chaos. Myrna resides in Washington, DC.